How to lovingly reject a brother?

Someone asked me this question just recently and I thought it's a valid concern among women. What should a woman do when she don't like him back? Often, the way some women handle the situation is to reject him "without grace" either intentionally or unintentionally. I am guilty of this and I am speaking from experience as well as observations from other people. 

Here are some of the common scenarios of handling how to reject a brother "without grace":

1. "Busy ako"- You make every excuse you can think of or say no to every invitation even if he asks for your available time next week or next month.  

2. Mentally Absent - You met with him but your face shows that you are not interested with everything he tells you. You laugh when he is not joking or you look at your phone all the time

3. "Secret lang natin" - Telling all your friends that you are not interested in him, except to him personally

4. Shame him - To his face and in front of other people, you tell him with a duh?!-face, "Ano 'to? Did I tell you to give me this?". This may sound wicked but ya, this happens.

5. Ireto sa iba - You try to make him like someone else instead of you by always changing the subject about good qualities of this girl across the room or in your neighborhood.

6. Paasa - You accept his invitation to go out. You accept his gifts and you take his calls or chat, everything he does open ka. The guy thinks and is almost sure of his moves of panliligaw to you, but it has been 3 years of waiting and you still can't decide

So how should you reject a brother "with grace"? Mark 12:31 tells us the second greatest commandment: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’

I believe this encompasses all wisdom in dealing with any person suitor or not. With this command, I suggest the following ways of rejecting a brother "with grace":

1. If you can't say it verbally, try writing it down. 

2. Don't make excuses. Guys would appreciate if you get to them straight.

3. Thank them for every good gesture they showed you so they will be encouraged to build good treatment with women

4. Think, look and speak to them in respect.

5. Respect also means, being mindful of his reputation. If you feel you need like sharing your thoughts about him, talk to a trusted mature person. Try not to spread the news about your dislike to him.   

6. If you are not interested in him, stop the courtship. Don't enjoy the perks and let the guy wait for nothing. 

7. Pray for him that the rejection would not discourage him in his life. 

8. If you will reject him, don't say "marami pa naman dyang iba." Let him realize that himself.

In case that after the rejection he is still persistent, he might need another round. You might be unclear on your letter to him so ask him what is it he didn't understand. He might misinterpret your gesture so talk to him to clarify things.

If makulit pa rin, you might need help from someone mature and you both trust.

In fairness to most men, after the rejection, they move on fast. So just obey God's command and lovingly reject him.